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  • Writer's pictureHermione Gardiner

Is it time to let go of the SHOULDS

Life is full of expectations and societal pressures that tell us what we should and shouldn’t do.

From the moment we’re born, we’re bombarded with messages about how we should behave, what career path we should follow, and what our lives should look like. You should pursue a conventional career

👉🏻🫵🏻You should behave in line with societal norms

👉🏻 You should stay in the lines and play by the rules

👉🏻 You should follow a conventional path

👉🏻You should grow your business to that size

👉🏻 You should prioritise stability over passion

👉🏻You should stay in that marriage

👉🏻You should keep that toxic friend

👉🏻You should keep those thoughts to yourself

👉🏻You should confirm to societal beauty standards

You should conform to societal expectations of success….Sure, maybe there are some boundaries we all need to play within as humans BUT the more I read, research and experience - I notice that the more we live from a place of should, and what is societally expected of us, the more we are often grinding against what we really want, what would really light us up, what would really let us live an incredible, amazing life.

And often that leaves us feeling empty and in a place of lack, despite perhaps having and doing everything that society says we should have and do. Shoulds are at the root of your doubts, fears, resentment, and shame. I can speak that from my own experience.

But here’s the truth - living a life based on shoulds often keeps us from pursuing our true passions and experiencing the incredible, amazing life we truly desire.

Maybe it’s time to question the “shoulds” and realise that true fulfillment and happiness come from living a life that aligns with our deepest desires, rather than trying to always meet societal expectations.

Rather than keeping up with the Jones’.

Rather than playing it safe and living from a place of fear.

Sometimes to achieve big, beautiful and brilliant things we need to let go of what society expects, f*ck the shoulds, take risks and lean into what we really want.

Breaking free from the shoulds does require stepping into the unknown and embracing uncertainty.

It’s about taking a leap of faith and trusting that the path we carve for ourselves, based on our true desires, will lead us to fulfillment and success.

Yes, it can be scary to go against the grain, but the rewards can be immeasurable.

When we let go of the shoulds and follow our hearts, we are able to unlock our full potential and pave the way for an incredible, amazing life.

To create happier lives, amazing businesses, activate communities.

By living authentically and saying “F*ck the Shoulds,” we can become beacons of inspiration for others and in turn the world around us.

Remember, the life you truly want is waiting for you beyond the confines of societal norms.

Take risks, lean into your dreams, and create an incredible, amazing life that is authentically yours.

We only have this one short life that is passing us by each moment… and despite what society expects it’s actually yours to decide what you want and what you do with it.... so - what do you really want for your life?

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